life

This is Grief

Sep 29, 2013 | | 1 comment

Grief is not about the person we lost. It is not an exercise in doing what they would have wanted. Grief is for the person who is grieving. It is self care; a process of integrating the loss into our life. Just as her presence in my life changed the person I am, the loss […more]

Living Presence

Sep 8, 2013 | | 4 comments

Each of us lives in the lives of others. Sometimes we are fortunate to witness a glimpse of our influence in the life of another person. It could be a word, a quote, a gesture, a choice of restaurants… and we smile to ourselves, “I know where that came from.” But the real treasure, the […more]

Pink Squares

Mar 27, 2013 | | 11 comments

Update: When I first posted this, I understood the meaning behind the image, but I didn’t understand some pretty basic things about it… First, it is an equal sign (=). Seems silly now, but I didn’t see that in the beginning. Also, it is a red version of the Human Rights Campaign logo. The name of […more]

Tick Tock

Jun 10, 2012 | | 2 comments

Life goes on one moment following another. The predictable rhythm of the second hand, the rising & setting sun, the seasons… Tick, Tock, tick, tock… lulls us to sleep. When asked how we are doing, we automatically answer, “Same old thing. New day.” Then something happens that shakes our world to the core. Last Friday […more]

Mother Earth and Father Time

Mar 26, 2012 | | 2 comments

This morning, I was privileged to witness a holy moment.  It all started when Danae learned that a dear friend had passed away last night.  Molly was eating her breakfast and Danae began to cry. I told her that mama was sad.  She went to her mama, hugged her and said in her sweet little […more]

Marrow Sucking

Mar 2, 2012 | | 2 comments

I am sitting in the lobby at Duke Hospital writing this on my droid. Upstairs the best medical staff on the planet are pumping poison into my daughter to kill this awful cancer. I was planning to work remotely today, but forgot to bring my laptop power cord. So it has become a vacation day. […more]

New Guy

Jun 19, 2011 | | 2 comments

On Sunday mornings, I meet with a group of friends at Amelies French Bakery. We talk about life together and encourage one another. Meeting at a public location can sometimes make things interesting, like this morning… a fellow came in and invited himself (politely) to be part of our group. When he joined us, I […more]

Another Day Older and Deeper in Debt

Jun 8, 2011 | | 3 comments

At one time not so very long ago in mining communities, the company owned everything and loaned the miners enough to just get by. But they never paid the workers enough to repay the debt. This way they kept the miners in something very close to slavery. As the song, “Sixteen Tons” said, “I owe […more]

Hurt People Hurt People

Jun 29, 2010 | | 1 comment

Hurt people hurt people.  People hurt others because they themselves are hurt.  The people who they hurt, hurt others.  It is an endless cycle… unless it is not.  What can stop the cycle? People like you and I point fingers at one another saying, “You hurt me!”  The truth is, I did hurt you, whether […more]

A Perspective on Hierarchies

Feb 6, 2010 | | 2 comments

Two seemingly unrelated stories stirred something deep in me… Warning: movie spoiler ahead. Story 1: I was talking to a friend this morning.  Incidentally this friend is a few years younger than I.  In the near future, we will be spending more time together, and we were discussing how we were each looking forward to […more]