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Seeking Solitude

Sep 23, 2015 | | 6 comments

Today, September 23, 2015, is the 3 year anniversary of the loss of my youngest daughter. Every year on this day, I have taken the day off from work to honor Kat and to find some solitude. This year, I anticipated spending the week at the Well of Mercy, where I have gone on retreat […more]

Loving Kat, Changing Me

Dec 2, 2012 | | 18 comments

This is a story about my daughter Kat and just one area where she had a profound impact in my life. Actually although Kat is at the center of this story, the story is about me. Many who did not know Kat were made aware of her existence because of her tremendous fight with cancer. […more]

The Room Built With Love

Sep 20, 2012 | | 6 comments

In order to setup this story, I offer this extremely abbreviated version of a very long and arduous journey: Our youngest daughter, Kat, has been fighting cancer for the last year and a half. If you want to know more about that journey, click here. Last week, in the hospital, Kat’s legs and feet began […more]

Cancer

Sep 10, 2012 | | 2 comments

Cancer. Becoming harder each day to push back the inevitable pressures of life; the pressures common to us all. This awful disease unsatisfied with being compartmentalized. Breaking all barriers, demanding its own and everything else. A cancer of attention, a cancer of emotion taking every spare breath, every free moment. Cancer itself annoyed at the […more]

Wish I Didn’t Know That

Apr 1, 2012 | | 5 comments

If I had only known how long it would take me to finish painting the bathroom I would never have started it that day. The “popcorn” ceilings in my house are in horrible shape and cannot easily be painted. I knew they just need to be scraped off and finished flat, but was afraid it […more]

Hurt People Hurt People

Jun 29, 2010 | | 1 comment

Hurt people hurt people.  People hurt others because they themselves are hurt.  The people who they hurt, hurt others.  It is an endless cycle… unless it is not.  What can stop the cycle? People like you and I point fingers at one another saying, “You hurt me!”  The truth is, I did hurt you, whether […more]

Stirred Part 3 – If Only

Jun 22, 2010 | | Say something

If only… When I was a young man, I had all the answers.  In fact, I still have most of the answers, but they changed.  Now I am not so sure of these new answers.  One of the reasons for this lack of surety is because of those very changes.  Why should I think that […more]

Short

Jun 19, 2010 | | 2 comments

Attended a memorial service tonight for the wife of a friend.  Life is too short.

Improv Wisdom

Jun 18, 2010 | | 8 comments

I picked up, Improv Wisdom: Don’t Prepare, Just Show Up by Patricia Madson in one of the many bookstores in Berkeley last month when we were visiting Erin and Justin.  The title stirred me and a cursory browse of the book showed promise.  I wasn’t mistaken. Each day I understand better that our value is […more]

Stirred Part 2

Jun 17, 2010 | | Say something

Watching my granddaughter, Molly, grow is so incredibly rewarding.  She is constantly learning new things.  Every day she wakes up so full of life.  It’s as if she’s wondering, “What cool things am I going to learn today?” I used to believe that kids learn new things until they become adults.  Then you are are […more]